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Tuesday, March 10, 2009

Well, that was a strange reaction

I turned in my paperwork for the voluntary buyout. I'll know if I'm accepted sometime Thursday. Basically, if four people who have more tenure than me want the voluntary buyout, I won't be accepted. But far as I know, of all the people who want to leave voluntarily, I'm the one with the most tenure.

So, it looks like I'm gone. Noah, here I come.

The strange thing has been the reaction from Noah's mother. You'd think she'd be happy to have the father of her son come down to Austin to help her raise him. But that has not been the case. In fact, Nancy has been the ONLY person (in person or the blogosphere) who says I'm making a stupid decision to leave one job without a guarantee of another. She has even called me three or four times to talk me out of leaving the Star-Telegram. Says she's worried about Noah's insurance, and having enough money to take care of him.

But as I told her, nothing is going to keep me from my kid. This decision is about one person and one person only: Noah.

I will make sure that he will be OK.

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15 Comments:

Blogger Sadie J said...

Austin (and Noah) will look forward to your arrival! Welcome!

March 10, 2009 at 11:38 AM  
Blogger Ulyana said...

When you follow your heart, you are "doomed" to do the right thing :))) Nancy is just scared. You obviously haven't failed them financially, you have six months of pay and support paying insurance, you'll be OK. A lot can happen in half a year, and I'm pretty sure you can find a job. Especially with your experience. I'm so excited about you and your son!!!!

March 10, 2009 at 12:55 PM  
Blogger Victoria said...

Well, I'm sure that living in Austin will mean many more difficult conversations to come with Noah's mom-- she might not have to/get to be the "main parent" by virtue of the amount of time she spends with him. That could be a scary thought for her as well as the financial stuff.

Absolutely nothing takes the place of an involved parent that you see all the time, though. Nothing.

March 10, 2009 at 2:18 PM  
Blogger Billy Burger said...

Sheesh...women...can't live with 'em...

That's it - I'm done.

(seriously though, you're doing the right thing. Big ups for stepping up and changing your life so dramatically just to raise your son)

March 10, 2009 at 4:12 PM  
Blogger lindsay said...

awesome dude! even with the potential job-hunt stresses i really think you are making the best decision. you can't put a price on family, especially your kid. i know you'll do whatever you need to do to ensure he is taken care of. good luck and try to not stress!

March 10, 2009 at 7:19 PM  
Anonymous Allynson said...

It's actually not strange coming from her. Don't you know that you are damned if you do and damned if you don't on every decision you'll ever make as far as she is concerned? Sorry, got on a roll there!

March 11, 2009 at 2:14 PM  
Blogger Runner Leana said...

You have to do what is best for you and for your son. Congratulations on your decision. I am sure that Noah will love that you can be around more now!

March 11, 2009 at 2:30 PM  
Blogger turtlescanrun said...

I think it is a wonderful thing you are doing. It will really make a big difference in your life and in Noah's life. They grow up so quickly, every moment is a treasure. And at his age they change on a daily basis, it is great that you will not have to miss that.
As far as Austin goes, it is a great place to live, work, and run. There are a lot of great trails and a large running community. GL on your move and finding a new job!

March 11, 2009 at 4:20 PM  
Blogger Run For Life said...

I agree that you're doing the best thing for your son. Good luck finding a place and a new job!

March 11, 2009 at 6:38 PM  
Blogger Derek said...

In case you needed some more motivation to leave, "Time Magazine reported the Fort Worth Star Telegram as one of the top 10 endangered newspapers in the country." Looks like your paper might be in trouble in the future. Go to Austin!!

March 11, 2009 at 10:30 PM  
Blogger butcept said...

Awesome Kevin, just awesome. I love how you have put your son as a priority in your life. I think this is a great move and you should have just great KARMA for doing this. As for your ex, it's a dramatic change for her too. Give her some breathing room :-) and let it all sink in. But that's all you need to give her...the rest is all up to you!

March 12, 2009 at 12:46 PM  
Blogger T said...

Wow, Kevin. I had no idea...

I wish you the best, no matter what happens. I love that he's first in your heart and your life. He's a lucky little boy...

March 12, 2009 at 5:09 PM  
Blogger Tom Grant said...

Wow,

I guess we'll meet in Austin someday. My son (24) lives there, and I sometimes go to run there with friends of his. Austin is very supportive of running, and wine. I havent yet gotton the offer from JPS, but believe I will. Tom

March 13, 2009 at 9:41 AM  
Blogger Bryan said...

Hey Kevin, we never did go get that drink, and now it sounds like you're out of here--guess we need to get it scheduled and call it a "Goodbye Party."

As a dad without full custody of my own children (I apologize if it sounds a little cheesey), I am proud of you for taking this step--not every parent has the ability or the courage to do something like this. Noah will benefit so much from having you around more. And you will have such a richer, more fulfilling relationship with him.

My sister and brother-in-law live in Austin, along with their two young children--I'd be happy to put you in touch with them. Also, we get down there a few times a year, so we'll check in on you. :)

March 13, 2009 at 10:13 AM  
Blogger Linden said...

Isn't the friendliness of the blogosphere warming?!

As others have said before me, Nancy has some real reasons to be, well, not as excited as us. She has to deal with the reality of your move in a way that none of your readers do, really, in a way that no one else but her does. What parent doesn't worry about those issues in times like these, especially if you lose or choose to leave the security of a job?

Plus, I bet there are things she is anxious about that even she isn't consciously aware of. Maybe she's not looking forward to the tension between you two, even if it is best for your son. Maybe she is, as Victoria said above, a little sad that she will have to give up being the most-of-the-time parent and the special closeness that I'm sure that affords her.

I am sure, though, that there is a part of her that is truly happy for Noah that he will have both parents around. She must know how important that is for him, but her other concerns are more pressing right now.

Best of luck, with the job search and on this personal front. I know it will all work out.

March 30, 2009 at 5:27 AM  

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